Relationship Villains

Learn to spot your “villains” and learn your lessons faster and with less drama and pain!

  What are Relationship Villains? Relationship Villains are entities who are our closest universal friends when we are on the other side of the veil, but for this incarnation, they have volunteered to play the part of “the bad guy” to help us cross something important off of our spiritual “must learn” list for this incarnation.  They might be people who simply annoy us, or even those we consider to be our so-called enemies.  They #1 create (or co-create) unpleasant situations that open windows of opportunity for us to learn and grow, and #2, they may take action that forces us to stay on our chosen path so we an accomplish our learning/growth in what will ultimately be a less dramatic or painful way. Who are Relationship Villains? Relationship Villains can be anyone and everywhere.  Look for them especially in romantic relationships, family relationships, and work relationships, but they will also turn up at school, at the grocery store, at the airport, the DMV, and anywhere you happen to be!  They can be someone you have an on-going relationship with, or someone you interact with just once or twice.  When you learn the lesson, your relationship with your “relationship villain” will become much more palatable (this is usually the case when the “villain” is a family member) or your relationship will end because your mission together is over (often happens with friends). How can I spot my Relationship Villains? Since Relationship Villains are catalysts for opening window of opportunity throughout our lives, we look for them the same we look for windows of opportunity—by looking for patterns and life scripts.  So, to spot relationship villains in your life at the present time, consider the following: Are you involved in on-going arguments or unpleasant situations that are continually caused by the same person?  If “Yes,” that person is probably a relationship villain working very hard to help you learn a lesson.  Consider the circumstances and look for patterns to help you figure out your lesson. If you are involved in a car accident, or someone “does you wrong” at work, it is most likely a relationship villain providing you with a window of opportunity for growth.  How you react to the situation will dictate whether you go through the window or attract a similar circumstance to yourself again in the future. If you’ve had similar experiences in the past, reacting different this time may help you finally learn the lesson and put an end to this particular life script. If someone “bullies” you—he or she is definitely a relationship villain and will learn as much from you as you will from him/her.  The best way to deal with a bully is to stand up to him/her, learn the lesson, and be free to move on to other learning experiences. To spot relationship villains from your past (AND keep them from turning up in the future):  Do a mini-life review and look at situations surrounding people you feel have “done you wrong” and those in your life that you find particularly annoying or whom you might consider to be your “enemies.”  Carefully review the circumstances around your interaction with them and ask yourself these questions: Did I learn anything from my experience with this person?  Would things have been different for me if I had handled the situation differently?  You may find that the people you think “did you wrong” actually made things better for you in the long run.